To name it is to know

I certainly commend the authors for giving a name and a face to repugnant behavior. It may go a long way toward doing something constructive about the destructive behaviors that heretofore go on in organizations. That's the reason why I read this book. I was interested, and did find, examples of commendable companies that drew the line and declared that destructive behavior is not tolerated. However, I'm not really that much more armed to fix a company's "sick environment" as a result of this book, which is the reason why I gave it 4 out of 5 stars. For one thing, the book is predominately focused on the victim. When it does talk about personnel policies, it is a little cursory. I would love to read an in-depth book or chapter on how to document the covert sabotaging behaviors -- those that are cited these days as the ways in which females bully. An organization really can't take action without documentation lest it run the risk of brandishing its own form of bullying. The book does point out the risks of mediating, because it can escalate the offenders' onslaughts. If offending people are resistant and behaviorally comfortable in their aggressions, they are not going to accept the lessons of training. Combine resistance with entrenched bad behavior,elusive documentation and, God forbid, political power of the offender arising from marketplace influences and you have a very complex and difficult problem to tackle. Unfortunately, I think the book glosses over that.

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"Mobbing:" A book that could save your life!

I stumbled across the term "mobbing," and then the book on amazon, late one night. I ordered the book after I read the description. "Mobbing" -- a group activity at work in which one person is singled out to be eliminated -- was a new term to me. But the idea of mobbing was not new. I was mobbed four years ago and, as do so many mobbees, finally left my job because of the excruciating mental and emotional suffering I endured. The women who mobbed me subsequently have mobbed two other people -- who both left with no job on the horizon -- and doubtlessly will continue to mob whoever holds this particular position that reports to her. This book helped me understand the behavior, how it occurs, how it builds up, and, most of all, that it happens to millions of other people every day. I realized that what happened was not my fault, and now I feel more confident as a professional than I have for the past four years since the mobbing. Please understand that I am not a fan of self-help books -- I'm a pretty no-nonsense type and think that some of these books are frivolous folderol.
But not "Mobbing." I even emailed the authors, who took the time to personally answer me.
This is a fantastic book. If you're being mobbed now, it will help you cope. If you have been mobbed, it will help you recover.
Once more, thanks to the authors for bringing this ugly facet of the working world to light.

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seek help and leave the environment

I'm currently dealing with the affects of this type of cowardly behavior, and I would like to send a message to anyone who has found themselves here at this web page:

If you "feel" like this is happening to you, if you "think" this may be happening to you, if you are waking up in the middle of the night, by intrusive thoughts and worries surrounding your work situation, and wondering what is wrong with yourself, then trust your instincts. Leave the environment and seek help. Please do it for the good of yourself, your health, and your loved ones.

This has been one of the most crushing, defeating experiences of my life. I hope that I can at least help keep someone from making the same mistakes in not trusting in their own perceptions.

Don't worry about revenge via lawsuits, or fighting back, or personal pride. Be concerned about your own mental and emotional well being. Surround yourself with people who give a damn about you. Seek resources such as this book in order to understand your situation, and try your best to start dusting yourself off.

These types of environments are severely ill and fronted by phonies. They are the most ignorant, the most scared and would be the first ones to crumble under the same circumstances you have found yourself. There is no honor or valour where you are at. Let them be. Rise above it, and out of it...

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