No "Hypocrisy" Here

Anyone who has read any part of this book would know that it does address the needs of both people in the relationship, whether one - or both - were abused. To say that this book doesn't address the partners of survivors is ridiculous. This book is loaded with insightful information for both survivor and partner to assist in learning and dealing with the abuse. Indeed, parts of this book may not truly relate to your personal situation, but there parts that will, guaranteed.
Being a good partner means being open and receptive, to even the things we fear the most. While there are parts to this book that open new doors and create new challenges, this book provides great insight in how to face those challenges, and come out ahead. Can a book fix everything? No. But this is great place to start.
The book is loaded with quotes like: "You will also need to shift your focus from the survivor and the survivor's problems to yourself - your needs, your feelings, your history, and places you can grow." AND "Don't take care of the survivor. That's not your job in life. Take care of yourself."
Anyone who says this book can't help either didn't read it, or is too narrow-minded to know any better. Read this book. Read it with your partner, and share what your learn together.

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Disputing Hypocrisy in Action

I just finished reading Allies in Healing. I feel it is an excellent book for both partners and survivors. So when I read the review Hypocrisy in Action I thought it was about a different book! The whole book is about the partner NOT giving in to the survivors every demand and taking care of their own needs, in addition to being supportive.

He stated he just broke up with his girlfriend. I'd say she's better off without such an angry, closed minded partner, who wasn't capable of being a true partner at all!

Don't let that review influence you! I think you'll get A LOT of helpful incite from this book!


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Unbelievably Helpful

This book is unbelievably helpful for the partner of a sexual abuse survivor. Being able to focus on your feelings again seems selfish at first for a partner, but staying strong as an individual makes your support for the abuse survivor even more possible in the long run. You realize that you are not alone, and that there have been other partners who are showing courage by sticking with someone who is going through (or neeeds to be pointed toward) the healing process. The writing is very clear and well thought through. Because the author is a sexual abuse survivor, and provides clinics for partners of sexual abuse survivors' partners, she is very knowledgeable of the feelings that people on both sides of this trauma end up living with. I would highly recommend this book to both survivors of sexual abuse and their partners so that both people in the relationship can better understand the impact of trauma on their loved ones.

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